Tu Kahan Chupa hai hame ye bata!

I never imagined the worst nightmares could come true.Never thought that hope could vanish in a second. There is one thing that I blindly held on to, Faith. Seems like it does not exist. Or it has chosen to ignore us. I am losing my ability to pray because I fear that there is no one listening.

Noor e khuda
Aaj kal tu kahan hai ye bataa
Kya ye sach hai ke tu hai humse khafa

Mowgli

I have just heard of the experience from my Mom. She says it was the happiest feeling . I have heard endless stories of her priceless moments with her first bundle of joy . How she took her in her arms when she was a day old, how she invented games for her , how everyone in the family has that one special pic with her in the 1980 Tshirt , how she is still the first child for each one in the family and the rest of us a distant second ! Today as I stand at the threshold of the same event , I can barely contain my excitement and love.

Welcome to the Ramachandran Family little Mowgli and I'm sure you are going to snatch away the most loved child title from your Mom!!

Low Calorie Cooking - Recipe 1- Soya Granules Aloo tikki

Now the common misconception is potato is fattening and soya is healthy. This is just partly right. Boiled Potato has zero fat while Soya has quite a bit of fat. Infact my trainer made me have a boiled potato every morning in my good old days of gymming.Soya has protein and Potato has only carbohydrates. So I thought of making a perfect meal of protein,fat and carbs . So here goes the recipe

Ingredients:

1) Soya Granules(Ruchi) : 1 cup

2) Boiled Potato(with salt) :2

3) Ginger Garlic paste : 1 tsp

4) Cumin(Jeera) Powder : 1 tsp

5) Chaat Masala : 1 tsp

6) Green Chillies: 1 finely chopped

7) Lemon Juice : 2 tsp

8) Salt,Pepper and Sugar : as per taste

9) Cream (Optional) : 1 Teaspoon

10) Bread : 2 Slices

11) Bread Crumbs/ Rava(Semolina)

12) Boiled Green peas/cabbage/carrot (with salt)

13) Oil : 1/2 tsp

Method

1) Boil 4 cups of water and bring to boil. Add salt to the water so as to just about flavour the granules.This should be approximately 1 teaspoon.Put in Soya granules into the boiling water and cook for 5min. Remove from fire drain excess water and wash with cold water. Squeeze out all excess water and keep aside

2) In a wide bowl mash together the boiled potatoes,boiled peasand/or carrot and/or cabbage, soya granules,ginger garlic paste,cumin powder,chaat powder,chillies,lemon juice,salt,sugar,pepper and cream.

3) Soak the bread slices in water , squeeze out water and mash them along with the soya-potato mixture. This binds the mixture.Check all seasoning again at this stage and add as desired.

4) Make palm size tikkis/flat cylinders and roll them over the rava/breadcrumbs. You can make bread crumbs by toasting bread pieces and grinding them in a mixer.

5)Now since this is a low calorie dish, get a non stick pan on the stove and add 1/2 tsp oil to it. Take a half cut onion and use the flat end to spread the oil evenly on the pan. Now cook the tikki in this pan on a low flame with a cover. Flip till both sides have browned well.

6) Serve hot with green chutney

PS : Please ignore the shape of my tikkis :)

Shaadi Chronicles - 2

On the Gtalk window at 11 am when both of us are usually busy cribbing about long meetings

R : Love You

Me:???

R : Sorry Wrong Window

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As I land on a Friday night on the much awaited weekly flyback to meet R after a week

Me: Hi Sweetie, Missed you and am so glad to be back!

R: You know Ismail got eliminated,Thank God Tanaaz and Bakhtiyaar are saved !!!

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After shopping for loads of low calorie stuff

R : You know right both of us are like super fat now

Me: Yeah.. I am going back to my low carb diet, no sweets , no fried stuff and am doing the Jillian Michael 30 day fat shred

10 min later

R : Can I taste the Belgian chocolate flavour ?

Me : I think I'll have the blueberry cheesecake flavor

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Outcast(e)

Navratri has a special place in my heart . Being the women lib types, nine days dedicated to the female form has to be one of my favourites . Married into an Assamese family this festival now has greater importance and this Navratri was spent with the in-laws.I thoroughly enjoyed the pampering,was thrilled at the gifts waiting for me and loved getting decked up to attend the durga pujo mandals!

Coming back to the title of the blog; On the 9th day Tamilians celebrate Saraswati Puja. This day has people getting all their academic books out ,praying to the goddess to give them 'buddhi' and calling the neighbours home for 'vetla pak'.

So FIL and MIL were called by a Tamilian family in the building for vetla pak . They innocently informed the neighbour that they too had a Tamil speaking member in the family , Neighbour gets excited and forces Husband and me out of our evening beauty sleep to come home and take vetla pak.

As I enter their house, the neighbour-wife pounces on me and starts a continuous chatter in Tamil. I try escaping with the excuse of washing my hands.She follows me quickly to the wash basin and asks me in hushed whispers:

Neighbor Wife(inquisitive look): " Iyer or Iyengar?

Me ( wondering how that matters) : " Ehh .. Iyer"

Neighbor Wife ( concerned look) : How do you manage with the food? Who cooks at home? Must be difficult na with non veg and all? Whenever you are here visit our place, you can have the food you really like.

Me ( Smile Feebly) : Thanks

I shouldn't have just smiled . I wanted to tell her that I love the food at the in-laws place. First, cos MIL is a great cook and she makes everything with great love . Second I really like Bong/Assamese food specially the non vegetarian fare. I do not miss the Tam food cos I never liked it much.

And most importantly however innocent her question might have been, how does it matter if I an Iyer or Iyengar and is that the question you want to ask someone who has come to your home for the first time! What if I wasn't from either of the sub castes? I sometimes marvel at the fact that 60 years post independence such definitions that have lead to continuous division of our society, still matter.

Shaadi Chronicles

R and me walking on the most crowded street of the city

Me to R : I think I need a diamond ring from you

R: Fair Enuf.. But you have to do something for me in return ..(with a glint in his eye)

Me( suspicious) : Ok

R:Go dancing till the mall ( which was 200 metres away)

Me taken back a lil .. regain my composure...take a deep breath and tell myself ,"Afterall I am doing this for my best friend"

I dance away till the mall .. recreating the thunder thigh actress dancing era for the onlookers...

.. Look back victoriously at R

R: No grace... you call this dance!!!No ring for bad dancers!

Moral of the Story :

1) Listen to your Mom when she forces you into learning classical dance

2) Do not marry a cheat

The Bias!

My batch mate ( both of us are from one of the better B Schools in India) said, " I will never date a girl from the IIMs even if I get the chance cos she will always be better off than me"
The statement got me thinking. Would a girl from my batch say that about a guy from the IIMs.. I doubt if she would.But would the same girl hesitate to date a guy from a lesser acclaimed academic institution.. I think she would.

Why do such biases still exist. Has the society entrenched them in our mind so deeply that inspite of education,awareness and global exposure we get trapped in them..!
Even today the prize catch for a smart, educated and independent girl is a guy from the IIM/IITs who earns more than her. The qualities of supposed intelligence and current/future prosperity override the lesser important qualities of care,understanding and even compatibility at times!

The criteria that the guy has defined for the girl also hasn't changed that much ... working being an addition to fair,slim,beautiful and homely .. to help him have a better life style!I have never seen a guy aspire for a girl who is better of than him academically or economically .

To end with a classic case...

A plump girl with an IIT/IIM background earning a 7 digit salary would still bear the brunt of rejection on account of her weight by most of the guys..
And a plump boy with the same credentials will also be rejected albeit by a handful of girls...
He will most definitely be lapped up by zillions of others!

Jealousy!

I am jealous of women with a face and body to die for without much of effort...
I am jealous of people who own swanky houses by the virtue of rich parentage...
I am jealous of people for whom writing comes naturally and words just flow...
I am jealous of people who can set any dance floor burning without any training...
I am jealous of people who can create music that can make zillions swoon to their tunes...

Finally I am the most jealous of people who are not jealous of anyone !

For people who understand who Marathi..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TgnFBQCDS2Y

Happiness and R

April 23rd…. The day I had been planning out for six months right from the insignificant clutch to the ultra expensive (strictly by my standards) saris … yes it was my wedding day!!
I had looked at a 100 beauticians before resigning myself rather grudgingly to a mediocre one…was unsure about the venue itself due its unattractive location… had high doubts regarding the decorator… and was paranoid about the living arrangements for R’s family... And to top it all the power supply decided to play truant midway through my makeup session…In short I knew we were heading towards a disaster
As I walked into the wedding hall in all my fineries and mind full of wedding logistics issues, I saw R standing there smiling… and suddenly all the planning for six months seemed irrelevant …
I don’t remember how the mandap looked or the food tasted… I didn’t care how fat I looked in the sari or how white I looked in the makeup… All I remember is it was one of the happiest days of my life and all that I planned for didn’t contribute one bit to it!!!

Poetry

After ages comes an album with real poetry ... Do listen to Gulal's sound track
A few of my favourites

man kare so pran de jo man kare so pran le
wahi to ek sarva shaktiman hai

vishwa ki pukar hai ye
bhaagwat ka saar hai
ki yuddh hi to veer ka praman hai

kauravon ki bheed ho ya
pandavon ka need ho
jo lad saka hai wahi to mahaan hai

Another one

alim yeh kehta wahan ishwar hai,
Faazil yeh kehta wahan allah hai,
Kabur yeh kehta wahan issa hai,
Manzil yeh kehti tab insaan se ki,
Tumhari hai tum hi sambhalo yeh duniya,
Yeh ujde hue chand baasi charago,
Tumhare yeh kale iraado ki duniya,

Dreams turining into Reality...

DG,TG and me have morning discussions on how to avoid going to work with possible situations...
Marksheets collection,Caution Money collection- Category - Post MBA Rigmarole- Can be used once in 2 months
Stomach Ache, Dysentery,Fever - Category-Illness - Can be used often
Deposit Submission/ Collection, House Hunting -Can be used once in a year
Roommate locking you in the room - Category -Unimaginable- One can only dream of it and can never be used

But didn't I tell you KG is an angel in disguise .. ( What with her skills in magic and saree price estimation)

Yes our dream did come true!!!! :):) ...

Sorry about Saree!

Scene 1
DG,TG ( name courtesy WSW) and yours truly go shopping... DG buys a very heeeppp saree for rs 2400 onnnnly! What a steal we think!

Scene 2
DG proudly shows off the saree to KG... KG gives a quick look as though making a mental note of the zari used and work done... 'Not a rupee more than 1200' she announces with confidence that would make Obama jittery ! DG is crestfallen .. as a parting gift KG says' You always like such dull colours na'...

Scene 3
Yours truly returns after the most important shopping trip of her life... She went to a store that sounds suspiciously like a 'fake female' ... best for sarees from the part of the country that her ancestors hail...
Returns home with ' the saree' ... She tells TG the price who suffers from a minor heart attack... gulps some water and recovers... TGs chest still pains... so she takes the saree to KG ... KG this time a lil unsure but still with confidence equivalent to Mrs Obama says ' Some where about Rs 2500!' TG lets out a wild scream... her chest pain has disappeared in a jiffy... Yours truly has collapsed by then...
TG goes to KG and manages to whisper ' Jus multiply that figure you quoted by 10'
and as I lay on the floor choking KG in her true style gives me a parting gift ' You guys wear such boring stuff for your marriage..'

Scene 4
DG is now elated ,for she is the lesser affected victim...

Scene 5
3 Girls taking a solemn oath:We will never show our Sareeees to KG!!!!

What I am doing in 2009?

What I am reading( rather have read)...
Interpretation of a Murder- Jed Rubenfeld : Sigmund Freud is one of the characters and revolves around the Oedipus Complex... has a promising start and a very convoluted end...worth a read for an introduction to Freud's theories

Collected Short Stories-Kalki : The translation from Tamil does not sound quite right and the twist at the end of every story is cliched. Yet the book works and how! It takes you back to the freedom struggle,woman emancipation and abolition of untouchability and shows the reader what it takes to be a true leader and a revolutionary! An ideal gift for Muthalik and Co.

Tales of Beedle the Bard - J.K.Rowling : Pls Pls rush to the nearest store and get the Jataka Tales instead... The notes by Dumbledore are quite nice though...

The Japanese Wife - Kunal Basu : After reading this I almost gave up on Indian Authors until.... I read...
Haroun and the Sea of Stories - Salman Rushdie : Alice in Wonderland meets Arabian Nights meets the Indian Subcontinent... Rushdie's first children's book takes you the fascinating world of stories and draws parallels to the political games of the subcontinent... How I wish there was really a Sea of stories ... would love to swim in that ocean forever :)!
Liar's Poker and Snowball is what I am going to pick up next...

What I am watching..
MTV Roadies whatever season or version... It is bitchier, it is uglier and it is in Australia(some saving grace)...Roadies reached a new low yesterday with the girls kicking each other and hurling abuses that would put the Amboli taporis to shame!

Balika Vadhu ... One more saas bahu saga set in Rajasthan I thought... Instead of a black girl a young girl... but this soap has really surprised me ... understated yet powerful performances,a strong storyline with stronger messages and no exaggerated closeups and background music.. Balika Vadhu is here to stay!

Filmfare Awards... Drooled at Katrina Kaif's blazing orange gown and went awwww with A.R.Rahman's ever so unassuming demeanor in the awards...The 'Big'gies and the 'King's should take a quick lesson in true humility from him..

What I am eating...
The same boring unpalatable low carb food... chicken breasts, steamed fish and veggies,protein shakes... Yesterday was an exception though.. went out to treat myself at Banana Leaf to a fare of appam and stew ... and I guess Hell Hath no fury like a Dieting Stomach scorned.. threw up everything in the night!

What I am wearing...
Clothes of smaller sizes... marginally small... still light years away from the elusive small size ... but what the hell!

What I am listening to
Delhi 6- A R Rahman... what else and who else!!

What I am working on....
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Jaipur se nikali gaadi....

An inbox full of wedding invites has forced a non traveller and ' i hate dressing up' person like me put on my fineries( if you could call them that!) and travel to distant places ( We Mumbaites believe anything beyond a 10 km radius of Mumbai is far off!!) ...
One of these distant places this week turned out to be the Pink City of Jaipur for dearest H's much awaited shaadi..
My first visit to Jaipur was also for a wedding but I couldn't get time to absorb the city as most of the time was spent in a Dev D type alcohol and smoke haze that precedes every Bakar Gang marriage... (H and me belong to a gang called The Bakars )
The city itself had a very Delhish feel to it... with cycle rickshaws , decent roads , women with lipstick on even in the sabzi market and a nice chill in the air.... what made it different was.. the surprisingly un lecherous men who went about their daily chores without a glance at the pretty women walking on the streets.. the women themselves though decked up had a very innocent and endearing air about them... the streets filled with what I think were Banjarans in absolutely exquisite jewelery talking in a tongue I had just heard in movies...
The bazaars are a girl's dream come true and it was love at first sight with over a zillion items that adorned the shops in the tiny lanes... The Lakhi Jhumkas,the multicoloured gemstones, the kurtis at throwaway prices, the delicate handwoven bed covers, the trinkets oozing of an explosive combination of colours and shapes and finally the grand,bright and absolutely royal ghagras were a delight for the eye and the mind... This was my neverland :):)!!

Now coming to the wedding itself. It was a Marwari wedding in all its splendor and grandiose.. Ladies draped in a riot of colors...rustic and foot tapping Rajasthani music wafting through the air and the graceful dance by the women that can make even someone like me ( 10 left feet) want to move my hips and feet like there is no care in the world... The hospitality was royal to say the least. We were fed like we had just broken a fast and yes we responded with the same fervour!

The wedding ended at 4 in the night/morning ( and I thought only Tams got married at weird hours of the day!) and a certain non groom H provided the wedding a brilliant snory musical score pitching it right for all the important rituals!

The next visit I hope would give me chance to explore the other side of Jaipur... its heritage and architecture!!

My Moment

I crib about working on a 800 slider ppt... I crib about about my eyes watering and fingers twitching by the sheer amount of Ctrl C and Ctrl V done in a span of one hour...I crib about doing such ordinary work that even your average joe would feel like a star...

A young engineer walks by the cabin... stops for a second ... comes into my cabin and tells me " Your analysis on blah blah really helped us negotiate better and I must say your excel skills are amazing could you teach me a few tricks...And could you tell me where you did your MBA from... how did you get into consulting...".

The cribbing melts away and gives room to a zillion watt smile.... My own lil ' oh my god she's a hot shot consultant ' moment! I can now be laid off in peace!

21st Century?

2 MBA Grads fretting over a lost piece of clothing... suspect the house help of stealing it and replacing it with a neatly darned one ... probably cos she wanted a new one... ( replacing funda difficult to digest but imaginable).. so 2 things ... the lost clothing and the neatly darned replica of the same that has made a mysterious appearance into the house... DG ( the MBA grad whose clothing has been robbed) tries the replica and fits her perfectly!!


Discussion gets serious... KG whispers " I think she wants to do some kind of black magic... she robbed your clothing to cast a spell on you ... you should never be rude to such ppl! My Mom always tells me pls pls keep your clothes safely at home ( not cash, not your cards , not your laptop but your clothes)"


I overhear this ...think DG must be on the floor in peals of laughter... DG gasps " Really !! Im so scared... what should be done now... " Discussion moves onto possible remedies and when I go and chide them for being so regressive and unscientific... DG gives a gem " Science is based on hypothesis so its as vague as black magic " ( wotever happ to observations, corroboration and inferences)...


The night ended with weird discussions on astrology, blowing on hair before throwing it away,stepping on a lime and DG rushing to the bathroom for a bath to cleanse herself of the microorganims for that the NDR (Neatly Darned Replica duh!) might be carrying from the househelp's shanty(huuurrrraaaaaay the slim ray of scientific and rational thinking !!)

Literally Literary!

Picked up this post from a tag thrown open to all and the Oil companies strike has given be some free time at home to complete it... Would declare it as my almost fav tag jus behind 'fav 10 tracks' tag

My top 10 fav literary characters:

1)Karna : According to me the hero of the greatest epic ever!!!Stood for courage,loyalty and genorisity... my dream man!

2)Krishna: He would have been the best politician today...mastermind behind the epic war and then gave us  one of the deepest yet simplest way of leading a happy life... karma

3)Jeeves : I dont think I need to elaborate here!

4) Hassan : The sucker of selflessness that I am Hassan stands tall above all literary characters..except Karna maybe who was more believable

5)Scarlett O Hara : This seemingly selfish and cunning lady I believe, is the best example of grit and optimism in the world of literary characters... her last line "After all, tomorrow is another day" in my opinion pips " Frankly speaking dear, i care a damn" for the numero uno spot in the best line in the book competition!

6) William Brown: Ah noone has made me laugh more than him in my school days..Hats off to Richmal Crompton for creating such a lovable character

7)Dumbledore: The headmaster with the half moon spectacles was actually ' the one' in the Potter series..bigger than the protagonist himself .... I dont think the book should ever make a comeback now that he's gone!

8) Claudine : She hated the sports class in St Clares...jus like me!! :)... She was brazen, looked down upon the English sense of righteousness and yet so warm... 

9) Tenali Raman and Birbal : One a jester , one a minister.. both of em  sharp,witty and funny ...always marvelled at the way they solved their king's problem in the uniquest of ways... they might have existed in reality.. but stories of their wit and intellect have made them unforgettable characters in Indian children's literature... 

10)Mersault : The central character  of " The Stranger" and my favorite amongst my recent reads... His indifference,emotional detachment and remorselessness are metaphors of the world we inhabit  ... So shallow yet so profound.; Mersualt makes you rethink about all the social absurdities that define our so called evolved human sensibility !

My City

I sit here in an alien country counting the days to get back to India...It my city again... a mockery of its spirit, a mockery of its multi cultarilism , a mockery of its open arms..

I feel anger, pain ,sorrow ... but the feeling that engulfs me and is killing me is the one of helplessness...

I face questions here..

This happens very often in India doesn't it??

Why do u look so tense ... Mumbai always gets back to normalcy!!!

People talking to me about partying on this day of tragedy like I come from a militancy infested state!!!

Why is India always blaming its neighbour?

Why didn't we talk about 9/11 in the same breath ... like a normal terrorist attack....

Because the country made it a big thing... because the common man questioned it... because he thought only if he lived and died in dignity could he demonstrate his true spirit!!!

I know its a matter of livelihood... but without ' live' there is no meaning to the word...

It is time we all came out strongly...not just asking questions in our circles but through morchas. through voting, through rallies,public demonstrations,student movements,youth movement....that's how our country got freedom from foreign rule and that is the only way we can get freedom from a weak and indecisive rule!

Jaane Kyuuunn!!

Am addicted to the latest song from Dostana.. Jaane Kyun.. which sounds suspiciously like the Friends Theme Song... not tune wise but the whole lyrics and concept wise..

The lyrics although very banal and highly unpoetic struck a chord with me...Vishal Dadlani has finally given up the wannabe rockstar voice and the tune itself it very catchy.. Loved this part..

Jo dil mein taare waare de jaga
Wo tu hi hai tu hi hai
Jo rote rote de hansa
Tu hi hai wohi

Jaane kyun dil jaanta hai
Tu hai to I ll be all right

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On the vulgarity..err..reality show front... Monica  Bedi has made a come back into 'the house'!!!! I was hoping it would be poor man's Rakhi Sawant,Sambhavana... so that Roomie and me could get more cheap thrills watching B grade actresses fight  for 'whos more upmarket' title and UPDE ; Ugly Public Display of Everything(Payal's intolerable voice, Unfit Rahuls bare chest, and Raja's  ' for haven's sake' language)..Anyways back to dearest desh drohi Monica.. .. its time for the biggest love triangle ever... so pls dont miss today's episode!!! ( No Big Boss does not pay me... surprising no!)

Another Tag!

1. What is your occupation right now? Consultant
2. What color are your socks? Right now no socks on otherwise white
3. What are you listening to right now? Water in the bathroom
4. What was the last thing that you ate? Breakfast.. Sevai with Rajma ( I know... weird combination!!)
5. Can you drive a stick shift? No
6. Last person you spoke to on the phone? Aparna
7. Do you like the person who sent this to you? Yess !
8. How old are you today? 25
9. What is your favorite sport to watch on TV? Tennis
10. What is your favorite drink? Nimbu Paani
11. Have you ever dyed your hair? No
12. Favorite food? Seafood
13. What is the last movie you watched? Yun hota to kya hota
14. Favorite day of the year? 31st Dec - 1st Jan .. I love the New year spirit!!
15. How do you vent anger? Shout /Cry
16. What was your favorite toy as a child? I never played with toys.. but I guess my cooking set.
17. What is your favorite season? Winter all the way... it cold outside and you can get warm and cosy inside with a book and hot munchies
18. Cherries or Blueberries? Cherries . I have never tasted blueberries
19. Do you want your friends to e-mail you back? As in?? If i mail them...?? yes obviously!!
20. Who is the most likely to respond? Rachit
21. Who is least likely to respond? Everyone else
22. Living arrangements? Great
23. When was the last time you cried? Hmm... watching Mumbai meri Jaan
24. What is on the floor of your closet? Nothing
25. Who is the friend you have had the longest that you are> sending to? ??? What?
26. What did you do last night? Watched Big Boss!!! :):)
27. What are you most afraid of being lost? Dignity
28. Plain, cheese, or spicy hamburgers? I dont have hamburgers
29. Favorite dog breed(s): Labrador!!!!
30. Favorite day of the week? Saturday
31. How many states have you lived in? Only one!!! Maharashtra!!
32. Diamonds or pearls? Diamonds
33. What is your favorite flower? Lilies